In this week's episode, we explore stress. What is stress? What causes stress and how can we deal with it? We contemplate whether stress is objectively negative and delve into the view of stress as a motivator and ultimately, positive reaction to happenings around us.Read More
This week, Paul and Whitney talk about waiting for permission. When is the right time to ignore what other people are giving you permission to do, and start doing the things you want to do? Do you need to get permission from other people to change yourself? All this and more, on this episode of Designing Yourself.Read More
Both Paul and Whitney have been working on what it means to be ready for something. In this episode, they get to the heart of readiness and how it relates to the story - or website redesign! - that is our lives. They discuss living with outdated things, and how to know when you're ready to move forward with various aspects of your life. Whitney also talks about her shift from consulting to coaching, and what that means for her career and her clients. (This is a good one.)
A conversation before our recording led us to the topic of growth. In this episode, Paul and Whitney dig in to the components of growth, with a focus on both the positive (improving) and negative (pains). We also discuss the role of material things in facilitating growth, signaling success, and what their value is to us now.
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In this episode, Paul and Whitney explore anxiety after Paul realizes that it may not be exactly the same as fear. This can shape how we feel about it and react to it. So what is anxiety? And what can we do to overcome it?
Then, we have the opportunity to chat with Roz Duffy. Roz has been helping create great communities, but recently decided to turn her attention inward and focus on her choices. We talk about experiencing life and creativity while working through some tough emotions.
Roz Duffy is a user experience strategist and researcher. Translation: She loves creating great experiences for humans of all kinds. You’ll often find her bringing meetings to life with design activities or organizing events and conversations around empowering change and thinking creatively.
When not trying to understand the way people interact with the world around them, Roz can be found sipping soy lattes, running or writing in her journal.
In lucky episode 13, Paul and Whitney dig into work and effort. What happens when we get paid for something, versus just "having fun" at it? How do we choose where to put our effort? And why does work have such a negative connotation, anyway?
Then we sit down with the great Karen McGrane. Karen shares how she divvies up her days and her efforts, the balance between client work and non-client work, and chasing down interesting ideas.
Karen has been making the internet more awesome for nearly 20 years. You might know her from her seminal book Content Strategy for Mobile, her work at Bond Art + Science, or one of her many, many articles in publications such as A List Apart. Last year, Karen spoke at the Dare Conference. Her talk, “I Suck! And So Do You!”, was shortlisted for Conference Talk of the Year at the 2014 Net Awards - a well-deserved honor!
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In this episode, our 12th (and #2 in Season 2!), we talk about energy. What does it mean when we feel high energy or low energy? How do we balance our energy and find grounding? This is the episode where Paul finally talks chakras, and we explain it in a way that hopefully doesn't sound too "whoo-whoo."
Then, we talk with Dr. Leslie Jensen-Inman of the new UX school Center Centre. Hear all about her 14-page to-do list and how she keeps herself energized amidst all the stress. We're so happy to have had a chance to chat with her.
Dr. Leslie Jensen-Inman is a maker of awesomeness and a doer of good. She is a designer, speaker, author, and educator. As such, she connects industry, education, and community. Leslie is co-founder of the Unicorn Institute and Center Centre, where she works to improve the state of design education. Creative Director and Co-Author of the book, InterACT with Web Standards: A holistic approach to web design, Leslie has written articles for publications such as A List Apart, .net magazine, Ladies in Tech, and The Pastry Box Project.
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In the first episode of season 2, Paul and Whitney talk about intention. What happens when we focus on something and work to realize it? Why do New Year's resolutions tend to fail?
Plus, our (first ever!) interview with Gina Trapani. You might know Gina from her amazing work at Lifehacker, used Todo.txt, or heard her on one of her podcasts – This Week in Google and All About Android. And now, Gina is the co-founder and creator of ThinkUp, a tool that helps people understand how their tweets and Facebook posts affect others. Gina joins Paul and Whitney to discuss intention and how the tools we use can help us along the way.
Since the start, Designing Yourself has been a conversation. Season one had two voices in that conversation: mine and Whitney's. We love talking about these topics and could go on for hours — we may do so yet! But we're deeply interested and invested in bringing other voices into our conversation.
Those "other voices" should include yours. So with that in mind, I'm happy to introduce our hotline.
To leave us feedback or ask us questions, just call 404-500-SELF.
We'll be reviewing the messages regularly and will play our favorites as a part of upcoming episodes — both recorded and, eventually, live with some of our listeners. While we will always have a soft spot in our hearts for the written word, we're really interested in your voices.
We're thankful to have you along with us on this journey - and we're excited to hear what you have to say!
When Paul and I started a podcast to publicly explore the often sensitive domain of self-development, we hoped we would handle topics in a way that would appeal to the broadest audience possible. But we made one huge mistake: we didn't make it accessible for all.
We're thrilled to finally announce that all 10 episodes in the first season of Designing Yourself now have full transcripts. Each episode's transcript is right beneath the audio player on its respective blog post.
Reading through these pages of conversation helps us see even more clearly just how powerful it can be to bring our inner experience into the light. We hope you are encouraged to share your own truth, or at the very least know you are not alone.
A brief moment from Episode #1: The Hamster Wheel:
Whitney: So, here we are. We’re starting. You have to start somewhere, right?
Paul: You have to start somewhere. And if you don’t start, then nothing happens. Then nothing happens.
Whitney: And eventually you stop being given chances.
Paul: Yes, that’s true.
Whitney: Then the decision is made for you.
Paul: Yes. And then you start to feel powerless and like you don’t have control.
Whitney: Or you’re gone and it’s all over.
Paul: Yes. And then what? Nothing.
Whitney: We don’t know.
Paul: Well, we don’t know.
Whitney: Maybe you get a chance to do it again.
Paul: Yeah, that’d be pretty sweet. But maybe you won’t. I don’t know. But I do know that we started a podcast tonight.
Whitney: Which is pretty sweet.
Paul: It is pretty sweet.
Read the sweet, full transcript of episode #1 – all about beginnings.
Thanks to Ryan MacMichael for this week's topic!
Are regrets really all that bad? In this episode Whitney and Paul dive in and get right to it: why we feel regret, how it's triggered, and how to see it as an opportunity. Then we chat about "bucket lists" — often a plan to head off regrets in life — and share our own life plans, encased in amber, from the website 43things.
Whitney and Paul talk compassion and wisdom in this episode, as it pertains to others as well as the self. Does the way we see others affect compassion? What's the difference between empathy and compassion? We also talk about cultivating compassion and how it can be a truly empowering quality.
Links and References in this Episode:
Essential Spirituality by Roger Walsh
A butcher, a baker, a candlestick maker. I am a [blank]. What do we get out of making ourselves a noun? In this episode, Whitney and Paul try to conquer the complexities of identity – what it means, how it's formed, and how it effects our relationships with others. Do we create our identities or do our identities create us? Can we encapsulate all that we are in 140 character bios? Plus puns, pop culture and personas!
Nothing in life is permanent and yet, we try to act like it is. In this episode Whitney and Paul dig deep into what constant change looks and feels like - including how it feels to see someone else change long standing beliefs. We also reflect on Groundhog Day, Robert Frost, and Heraclitus.
Is vulnerability necessary for personal growth? In this episode, Whitney and Paul tackle this sensitive topic, revealing their own hurdles with honesty and authenticity. What is the strength in vulnerability? And why is it so hard to let ourselves be seen for who we really are?
Why do we allow distractions to divert our attention and fragment our time, keeping us away from doing what really matters to us? In this episode, Paul and Whitney discuss what it means to concentrate, to pay attention, to focus–which always requires saying no to ourselves and others. When does a desire for productivity begin to diminish the quality of our lives? And is technology to blame or is it just human nature?
Links and References in this Episode (yep, just one this week) :
The Power of a Positive No by William Ury
In this episode, Whitney and Paul talk about balance. Can one ever achieve balance? Is it something that one can obtain over time? Is it ever permanent? And are Gummy vitamins a form of balance? (Spoiler: they are!)
Becoming aware of yourself, your body, your surroundings... it's tough stuff. In this episode, Whitney and Paul talk about how they've succeeded and faltered with self-awareness through their lives. Also: empathy for others and for one's self.
Links and References in this Episode:
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
The Power of a Positive No by William Ury
Whitney's entry, "How We Pose Shapes How We Feel":
The funny thing about self-awareness though is that we all think we have it. We feel so tapped into our own motivations and desires, the modern, intellectual people that we are. But our concept of self-awareness is grossly limited.
Paul's entry, "Head First":
These are the small moves we can make, the small adjustments, that may seem trivial or even nonsensical but really can change our whole selves.
One of my favorite exercises in [Louise L. Hay's book You Can Heal Your Life is] The Mirror. You take a mirror, look into it, looking at your reflection and you say "I love and accept you exactly as you are."
In this episode Paul and Whitney talk about one of their favorite topics - no, really - fear. What holds you back, and what keeps you up at night? How do you get past a sleepless night? From there, they discuss living in the future - which may be the genesis of our fear.
References in this episode:
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Toile
Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind by Shunryu Suzuki and David Chadwick
Monkey mind: "... a Buddhist term meaning 'unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable'."
You've got to start somewhere.
In the inaugural episode of Designing Yourself, Whitney & Paul talk about the separation of one's self. We allow parts of ourselves to post things in various mediums, but does that give a picture of who we are, fully? Can it?
They also talk about to do lists, starting things, and selflessness versus selfishness.